September 7, 2012

Self Worth

I posted a question on Twitter this morning:  "Where do you see yourself in 10 years?"

I can honestly say that ten years ago I didn't know where I would be.  Hopefully out of the military and into a more routine lifestyle.  We worked hard the past ten years to get to this point.  We were married very young.  I'm thankful for that now, I believe God put us together at that age to support each other and we reached our goals as a team.  Maybe God saw we couldn't do these things it as individuals, so he gave us each other as help mates!  Glory be to God, He for-sees all & we are so thankful for everything and all His blessings!

What the next ten hold....only God knows.

We have so much going on right now and sometimes forget about the things that really matter.  When you get down to the nitty gritty of it....the priorities and goals you have in your head and heart don't always come to fruition.  You can live your life wondering "what if" or "why" but until you take the reigns and do something about it nothing will change.

So, where do I see myself in ten years? 

Oh....I don't know really.  I pray for hunger for God's word.  Something I have let go lately.  I don't have that hunger in my heart I once held.  I know that....I feel it.  It makes me sad that I make time for so many other things instead of putting God first. 

Terence said something to me last weekend that really hurt me, but it was true.  He said "You are always on your phone or on the computer!"  He said "You are treating the phone and computer like your "God".  He was right.  I do, I put those things above all the things that truly matter.  I'm ashamed.

I hope and pray that we instill good values in our son.  I want him to grow up prioritizing God and not a Nintendo DS, cell phone, or TV.  Of course I'd like to be in a forever home.  A home we can call our own and live there for the rest of our lives.  A place to hold our families and grandchildren one day and make memories.  Maybe a doggy in the backyard.  And-if our hearts change maybe another child???

You'll never have enough money or enough of the "things" you want in life.  But remember you can't take them with you!  Dust to dust.  Spend that money enjoying life, enjoying your family, supporting God's word, asking God how you can serve him???  The reward you will receive in your heart will be far greater than any material thing you could possibly buy!

I have a lot of Mom friends who place their self worth in their children.  While my child is a big part of my life, it is not MY life.  He is not what defines me as a person.  Once your kids are grown and in school the Moms find themselves lost and without focus.  I promise you this...there is always a service out there that someone will need!  Some place that will value you as a person and after your kids are grown and have left the'll still have things to focus on.  Each phase of life we evolve and change.  We are constantly growing and whether you have babies, teens, or grandchildren....enjoy each phase and feel blessed you get to live in those moments!

I have Mom friends who define their self worth my their job or career.  My job is a part of my life, it is not MY ENTIRE life.  These things, while all well and good should not be what you amount your life to.  They should be things in your life that make you happy and enjoy them while living in that period, but don't define yourself by these things.  Money and your career can only go so far and doesn't bring long term happiness.

I'm thankful today for my family and friends.  We have a home, cars, jobs, and we love each other!

Counting my blessings today and the next 10-50 years, however much God allows me.

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Allie said...

You are very blessed mama! Great post! Him and his curls get me every time!! xoxo

Jamie Bird said...

I don't think I've ever commented before, but I've been a long time reader. GREAT post! So encouraging and so important! :)

Jules said...

GREAT post....and your little guy and his curls melt my heart everytime! Can't wait to see you tomorrow night!!!!

Jessah @ Dreaming of Dimples said...

What a beautiful and thoughtful post. As someone who always thought they'd be a mother and may never be, I know how hard it is not to let external things define you. My newest challenge is to not allow infertility to define me either. Only God knows what I was meant for. Loving your follower. Hope you follow my journey as well.

Jessica said...

Wonderful post!

Trac~ said...

Great post and very true in so many ways. Love the cute pictures at the end of the cute little boy too. :))

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

I have to idea where I'll be in 10 years... except for looking down the barrel at 39, which is sort of scary. But sometimes there's good in uncertainty.

Debbie said...

Love it. So true. It's so easy to get sucked into our phones and the computer just because so much of life can so easily revolve around all of that. It's pitiful. I'm guilty of it as well and really need to prioritize better. Thanks for the reminder. You're not a long shot!! :)

The Sweetest Thing said...

That child is GORGEOUS!

Nicolle said...

Becky, you are blessed! I loved this post. I feel how you do about so many things in life.

Kevin got onto me a while back about my phone and being on it so much. I was also embarrassed and pretty upset with him, but he was so right. It made me re-examine how much time I was spending online. I don't want to look back one day and wish for all of those hours back that I wasted online. Sure, it's fun, but I know I can manage it better, and stick to the time I set aside for blogs, emails, etc. Plus, I don't want Boyd to notice and wonder why I was always on the computer.

Great post.


Stefanie Brown said...

Great post!
What an adorable little guy. How blessed you are:)